did you know : dating is a myth, intimacy is a government-sponsored lie and kissing has been debunked as an urban legend. all those couples you’ve seen? they’re fucking with you, dude
*aroace voice* i KNEW IT
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new rule: andrew and neil always need to be able to wear matching outfits
if you want neil to wear leggings, crop tops, short shorts, skirts, dresses, etc. andrew also has to wear that same thing
if something about andrew in those clothes feels off, or wrong, or makes you uncomfortable, you should probably ask yourself why you want to put neil in them
Being an active participant in fandom requires a certain level of self-regulating in order to be a healthy activity. It requires the ability to say “Not for me,” or “Not today,” and walk away.
We can have conversations about patterns we see in fanworks. We can discuss how we portray characters and relationships, how to effectively convey what we want to in writing, how to sensitively approach representations of marginalized characters. But having those conversations productively requires that we approach each other in good faith, and it requires the ability to self-regulate–including recognizing that often there is no hard line, no black and white answer, and we won’t always come to the same conclusions.
It requires an understanding up front that eliminating all fanworks we don’t care for is not the end goal of these conversations.
I’ll give a personal example. There is a ship that deeply, viscerally upsets me in like 95% of its iterations. I can explain why I don’t like it if asked. I’ve written about why I don’t think it’s handled well in canon.
And if I wanted to–if I wanted to–I could make a very convincing-sounding argument for why that ship is objectively bad and wrong and no one should ship it. Not because that’s objectively right, mind you, but because I’m good at arguing. I could slap that together in like… ten minutes, probably.
I don’t do that. If I vent about it on my own blog, it’s as infrequently as I can manage, because I do my best to avoid the content that upsets me. I don’t seek it out to get riled up about it. I don’t seek out content that upsets me, read it in its entirety, and then leave angry comments and send my friends to harass the author. I don’t choose a high-profile writer for the content I don’t like and engage in a targeted campaign of harassment against them all while claiming to be addressing a general problem.
If you are deliberately seeking out content that you know will upset you and reading it anyway and then feeling that you need to take those bad feelings out on the creator, you are not taking care of yourself. You are not engaging in healthy behavior or productive coping mechanisms. You are not keeping yourself safe, and you are not helping to make fandom safer for others. You are not engaging in good faith.
If you find that you do this and you can’t seem to stop, you may need to take some kind of further steps up to and including taking a break from fandom. I’m serious. I’ve taken breaks myself for that exact reason. There’s no shame in it.
Please monitor your own ability to self-regulate. Please actively evaluate whether or not you are engaging in healthy and productive behavior, for yourself and for others.
Just realized that Matt is the one that explains to Neil how Andrew’s “Three stages of withdrawals” work because he himself went through it.
And realizing that the respect that Matt gives Andrew on the field is because he’s personally aware of how much agony Andrew is going through each game night.
🥺🥺🥺
P.O.V: you are Andrew Minyard sitting on you're bench and your stupidly handsome bf-not-bf is trying to convince you to join him and Kevin at night practice
I read @palmett-hoes 's post on Neil being black and I can't get it out of my head
For those who don't know, the Nigerian government have basically waged war on civilians in response to their protest to #EndSARS which is police brutality
This shit isn't acceptable anywhere else and it sure as hell won't be acceptable in Nigeria
Fuck the president for killing peaceful protesters and just know Nigerians are fed the fuck up and absolutely no good will come to this man for his crimes against humanity
#EndSARS #prayfornigeria🇳🇬
